Be a Best Friend to have a Best Friend!
(Thank you to my fabulous best friends for modeling a few of my pieces!)
My best friends might live hundreds of miles away from me now, but as soon as i step back into our old town- things go right back to where they left off. I’m so thankful for the time (even though short) that I got to spend with these girls this week and all that they have become and are becoming!
Friends are just such an important part of our lives. I’ve been blessed to have wonderful friends come into my life through the years. Some have remained and others have drifted away- I haven’t always been the best friend, but I’ve learned a lot of lessons and hopefully have gotten better over the years.
Here are a few things I’ve come to realize about how to stay close, even through life changes, phases and stages!
If she tells you a secret, keep it a secret! Don’t be THAT friend.
Respect her choices- This doesn’t mean you support everything they do or every choice they make, but you HAVE to make your friend understand that you support her through everything. That you appreciate them and what they stand for- even the things you aren’t so proud of.
Be honest BUT timely. If you don’t think her outfit is a good choice tell her before she buys it or before she leaves the house. Leaning over in the while walking into the restaurant and saying ‘What were you thinking?!’ is never a good move!
Discuss issues before they become problems- Sometimes the things we love most about people also drive us a little crazy. This is completely normal! We all need our own unique flavor to add to the mix.
Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Return what you borrow- Once again, don’t be THAT friend.
Give honest advice- Honesty is always key!
Accept your limitations – you’re not Dr. Phil. Shoulder to cry on or a listening ear – yes. In-depth psychological assistance – be careful and direct her elsewhere if necessary.
Never forget the value of a true friend. Priceless. Take good care of her and she will last you a lifetime, there’s not much else that can say that.
Never gossip about your friend! Ever. Never ever.
If your friend doesn’t want to talk about something, respect their privacy.
Don’t knock her choices, be it handbags or boyfriends.
When she speaks badly about her husband/boyfriend/partner – neither agree nor disagree. Shrug your shoulders, nod, and leave it at that.
Don’t be devious, tricky or sneaky.
Don’t make promises you can’t keep.
Don’t be a Behavior Monitor (even if she asks you). It is her responsibility to know when she’s had enough biscuits or beer.
If you honestly feel a friendship is past its sell-by-date then end it – don’t drag it on.
Don’t lie to your friend – ever. Not to protect her, nor to protect yourself. Once the trust is broken it will never be the same.
Grow with them
A friendship is a living breathing thing. It won’t always look the same or fall into the same patterns. If you really value your friend, let the relationship grow through all stages of life.
The central theme of most of my dearest friendships is laughter. Being able to laugh together about ourselves is medicine for the soul.
Bare your soul
If you find a true friend, you’re so fortunate. Be your authentic self around them and give them permission to do the same. Even if there are difficult things that come up!
So many people in the world are lonely. If you have a friend whose heart is connected to yours, be grateful for them and show them that gratitude.
Remember- Everybody isn’t meant to be best friends with everybody else (that’s the worst misconception I have ever had), but when you do find those people you are fortunate enough to call your “Best Friends”, it’s so important to hold onto them!